JAK for this comment! Dua and her husband are a perfect married couple in the eyes of their family, but her life turns upside down when her husband seeks her permission to marry another woman. Thank you SO much. There are no specific hadiths about many things. From the subcontinent :p repression central and B. assalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH thank u bro for sharing such a nice and meaning full message, very good job,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,and pray for me m searching a bride for me. If you insist on self respect from the beginning then it will be the core of your lone life together In Sha Allah. Actually, that is false. to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). It is about give and take. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. Please please help me out. :(. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted and polyandry is completely prohibited. I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. Ameen. But there is Quranic verse. ruling can be based. Its NOT more rights which you have over us. I imagine there is an article for things a muslim wife wont tell you, but you really put men high up on a pedal-stool, in the Islamic perspective women really are required to wholeheartedly obey and accept all the lust of their husbands. Astagfirullah Allah forgive us all ameen. Is he generous or selfish, only thinking of his pleasure. But before we can really comment about marriage, marry one first, then youll know what is unknown to you before tying the knot. take time to find out. You are right there sister, I fell the same way my husband keep telling me that he is allow to Marry and so he would not need my permission to do so. Dear questioner! - muslim1 Jan 3, 2013 at 3:47 1 This is an issue faced not just by women but also by men. This commandment is written in the same verse in Surah An-Nisa. I want to ask I got married 3 months back with a man whom I hated the most. And since Hajj is the jihad of a woman, accepting polygamy for the first wife is more than jihad. Its not like Oh i have one blonde wifr, let me have one black wife as well. And if a sister gives him her all, it is duty of a man to be honest always. Copyright 2010 - 2017 Pure Matrimony. He isnt a mind reader. Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. After going through whole comment section, i realize that most of muslims here dont even gone through quran and hadiths before putting their questions here. Dont use any abusive word to express your feelings. They were born and raised in the west, especially the UK where we have Ulema who now grant permission for Muslimahs to marry Christian men and call it Halal.. then how can he accept to destroy the home of his Muslim brother and split Glad there are respectable men who actually follow the true Islam. Sister, I would be careful about saying that multiple marriages disgust you. The question is, how do his parents need support and why is getting married in Egypt going to fulfill that? Sometimes, dream about husband getting married to another woman indicates domesticity. During paediatric age however, in childhood itself a female child has more immunity than a male child. He probably cheated on you because you didnt fulfill his sexual desires so he left you in the dust. iv) To give protection to a widow or any other woman who requires it. This has been described in one verse in the Quran., (Forbidden on you) collects (in marriage) two sisters, except what happened in the past: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Verse 4: 23), 17. Let's get this right out into the open.Some women might think men are narrow-minded brutes for this, but it's the truth.Men desire sex. I am shocked by this backward/baseless thinking. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. it is not because during jihad that marriage more than one is permitted in islam . But we just cant treat you the same way he (pbuh) treated his wives. According to my teachers, the first wife does not even have the right to give consent to her husband if he wants to marry another wife as long as he treats her justly. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures. wife). Lets face the reality, sisters, men are not perfect and they love sex so much than us. Please you deserve care, love, honour and respect. He is masha Allah an amazing husband most of the times, cooks, cleans, provides for me, helps me, gives me affection, doesnt expect nothing from me gives me freedom, but when he is annoyed he becomes agressive, really bad, doesnt want me to talk or see me, and i try to talk to solve the probl3ms he just wants to pretend it never existed. Allaah says You said it !! Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good Nobodys perfect.Perhaps your husband isnt a Muslim scholar. May Allaah make it easy for us to practice.InshaAllaah, when I get marriied! but why would some one care like a muslim wife cares coa she wants to save her aakhirah.. hey sista. For this reason, there are more deaths among males as compared to the females during paediatric age. Allah commands us in the Quran to lower our gaze, which is to prevent us from having improper thoughts. istikhaarah about divorcing a husband who is treating her well and taking The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. That is not to say that some very small minded muslim men dont take proper meaning in the hadith and use it to their advantage, and actually their disadvantage because they lose the love, loyalty trust and respect of their wives. If a man is able to take a second wife, physically and financially, and he can treat both wives in a just manner, and he wants to, then he is allowed to do so according to Islam. fallen into a trap of the shaytaan, because he has made you attractive to and first of all if a man is thinking about another woman other than his wife he is already committing a sin and marrying another woman without the consent of his wife he will commit a bigger sin regardless anything. Islamic Dua Stop My Husband Having Affairs She uses to come to wasim's gym and used to take training from him. Men cannot even manage one woman fairly, how would he be able to multi task with two women who have two separate needs and expectations. The problem is men hide their second marriage from their first wife which itself is a evidence of unjust behaviour which means he shouldnt go for second marriage as he is unable to do justice. There is no hadith which states that the husband must ask his wives premssion. Krishna had several wives. arent they all superficial? I prayed a lot the day before and asked Allah to help me. dont expect him to remain content. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidh 1141, Grade: Sahih That he comes with one of his sides collapsed is a representation of the unbalanced manner in which he treated his co-wives. Dont bother asking any men. If the woman convinces him somehow not to be angry or have some genuine problem to avoid it then I dont think she will be cursed. Informative article. May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. Lets be real here these conditions for polygamy to happen that everyone keeps mentioning Wheres the proof? Salaam to all Muslim brothers and sisters who are reading this article and its forum. I love my husband so much that I can not see myself sharing him with another woman. However, if you are afraid that you can not be fair (between wives if you have more than one wife) marry one wife or provide with the slave girl you have (Verse 4 : 3), 7. is what is good, but if he waits until he feels good about it or sees a So your going to sit here and say you were never once attracted to another handsome man? He wasn't by my side, not even one bit. this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? You will not be able to do justice between wives, even if you are anxious to do justice. its not that you need to tie a pencil to it. If she is married, then such a The least of the 7th pts however is #4. Is it possible to have a premarital contract and express your total disagreement in case your husband marries another woman? dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. (Ameen). I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. He Loves You, Even If He Doesnt Always Show It commitment. You cant know this because no one knows whats in the mind of every man. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. Suck it up or leave him. What should I do. d ring. Everytime it isnt a happy hour to spend. Remember, that We can NEVER change the Words of Allah Azawajal to suit Our selfish desires! You are certainly rare. For shame! An outrage. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. I am a white English revert sister, who was raised Catholic my whole life before coming to Islam, so I know I am fighting my ingrained culture when I feel instinctively against it. Those who hate and fail to forgive, build darkness in their own heart. Yes, your right. Fee amanillah. Allah knows best. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. And dont be so quick to nag him about the things he doesnt do right. Everyone is touched by time, but who he is inside is what matters. He did the same. These cookies ensure basic functionalities and security features of the website, anonymously. God only made Adam and Eve, not Eve and Elizabeth. And Allah Knows Best. that He creates love and compassion between them, and helps each of them to He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. 1. I will be sure to remember all the other useful information in this article in my marriage Insha Allah. if you study Islam truthfully you will know u need to ask first. whispers is to ask yourself the following questions and answer them They are in denial. They also have a duty towards each other and must be . We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to the In every hadeeth there is meaning and insight to be gained. I pray Allaah helps you and others in situations like yours. 3. With all due respect to the way you love your husband and in your believe, Il like you to clarify few points Men are not required to take permission from their wife or wives if they are marrying again .. it is better for them to inform their wife. While it is completely understandable that you are shocked and hurt, provided the situation, you may still have the chance to improve your family life with him in South Africa and keep it separate from his parents and wife in Egypt. Please make duaa for me and help me in this very diffcult situation as I dont want to cause any pain to my husband and my family. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. One of the blessings that Allaah bestows upon some spouses is Gifts dont make up for it, and gifts dont make me respect someone. Bravo.Mashallah.this is the thoughts of a regular muslim guy. However, in most cases, when the secret is revealed, the wife never accepts the situation nor forgives the husband. astaghfirullah at number 4!!!! I think the writer of this article is a bit misinformed. And that resentment will build up and may lead to him being unnecessarily mean to you or losing some love. wake up to your self. You may want to read about50 Akhlaq of Prophet Muhammad SAW. I mourned him for a long, long time. The article asks women to respect their husbands but the final point says if he doesnt say I love you its alright, he still loves you. U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. When we wrote our nikkah, I ask this to be added. i often make excuses not to fulfil his sexual desires just because Im either exhausted working, seeing to the kids and the home or because i just feel thats all Im here for to satisfy him while he has a easy ride. Here are some of the rules in Islam that must be taken seriously. However a woman is not the same level as the man as shes required to please him in whatever situation unless its a situation where she has no power to do anything about (i.e monthly periods). As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. I have been married to a Pakistani man (we did nikah). Men may be the bread winners but life is not complete without a wife. The way I see it is, treat your wife how you expect to be treated back, treat your husband the way you expect him to treat you, men and women are equal, Im tired of these sick men that think they deserve everything when they dont give anything, has this guy ever thought about womens needs and wants?? in Quran it was said to marry more than one. 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